It’s been a great week for personal blessings.
I was able to spend time this weekend with all of my children either by phone or personally. I am a very proud Papa to kids who have put up with my overbearing fatherly advice and yet still try half a smile at my Dad jokes in public.
Being a father during a divorce is not easy. You have to learn to bite your tongue and accept certain outcomes. Decision making between two people who were once in love but now struggle to find common ground is a difficult chore.
Children struggle with trying to be favorable to both sides. It’s natural for them to play one against the other even when you are married. More often than not, I’ve had to compromise the short term for the longer game. The old adage of “pick your battles” has become an art form to me.
In the end, the results are in the product. They’ve turned out to be pretty good kids and continue to amaze me and their mother of their strength and ambition. I can’t say I’ve been a perfect father, but at least I know I have done enough to create good citizens. Here’s to a bright future of smart kids!
Wishing all you Father’s a great day and to everyone a wonderful week ahead!
Sonoran Conservative 
Kids and divorce is hard but can be handled. Mine were 10 and 14 when their mom wanted out. It was as amicable as possible and still awful. But she never said anything bad about me to them, and I never said anything bad about her to them (or anyone). (How could I? I loved her for many years and in some ways still do.)
Anyway, I got to see them easily although I always had to pick them up and drop them off. I used the pain of the divorce to motivate me to a new career. Today they are healthy, functioning adults who love me and I love them. Our relationships are fine.
Hang in there. Be kind. Say nothing bad about the ex- regardless. Kids know. They’ll still love you. Good luck, best wishes, and I hope you had a happy father’s day.
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